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De rol van persoonlijkheid in intieme relaties

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Slechte intieme relaties en psychische problemen gaan vaak hand in hand. Het percentage mensen dat zich aanmeldt voor psychotherapie vanwege problemen binnen het huwelijk is dan ook hoog. Binnen de eerstelijnspsychologie in Nederland behoren relatieproblemen tot de belangrijkste probleemgebieden. Hieruit kan men concluderen dat het voor de klinische praktijk, en specifiek voor de behandeling van relatieproblemen, belangrijk is om te weten welke factoren de kwaliteit en stabiliteit van intieme relaties beïnvloeden.

Dit artikel beschrijft een onderzoek naar de rol van persoonlijkheid in intieme partnerrelaties. Hiervoor werden twee grote groepen van samenwonende en gehuwde stellen uit de Nederlandse bevolking onderzocht (690 respectievelijk 282 stellen), alsmede een groep patiënten met relatieproblemen (N = 42). Persoonlijkheid werd gemeten met de Nederlandse Persoonlijkheidsvragenlijst (Studie 1) en met de Five-Factor Personality Inventory (Studie 2). De kwaliteit van de relatie werd beoordeeld aan de hand van de Nederlandse Relatie Vragenlijst. Uit de resultaten blijkt dat vooral neuroticisme en extraversie van beide partners sterk samenhangen met de relatiekwaliteit. Persoonlijkheidseigenschappen lijken belangrijk te zijn in relaties, maar partners blijken amper op elkaar te lijken met betrekking tot persoonlijkheid. Verschillen in persoonlijkheid tussen partners blijken bovendien geen invloed op de relatie te hebben. Partnerkeuze lijkt, met betrekking tot persoonlijkheid, vooral een willekeurig proces te zijn.

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The present study examines personality characteristics in intimate relationships, in two large samples from the general Dutch population and a patient sample (N = 42) with distressed relationships. Personality was measured by means of the dpq (Study 1) and the ffpi (Study 2), whereas relationship quality was assessed by means of the Dutch Relationship Questionnaire. Results show that neuroticism and extraversion of both partners affect relationship quality. Individual personality characteristics, in general, seem to be important factors in intimate relationships. Partners, however, do not resemble each other with regard to personality and differences in personality and do not affect the relationship beyond individual levels of personality. Mate selection with regard to personality appears to be an inherently random process. Some suggestions for the treatment of relationship problems are discussed.

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Dr. D.P.H. Barelds is universitair docent aan de Rijksuniversiteit Groningen, afdeling Differentiële Psychologie. Correspondentieadres: Grote Kruisstraat 2/1, 9712 TS Groningen.

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Barelds, D. De rol van persoonlijkheid in intieme relaties. DITH 24, 112–120 (2004). https://doi.org/10.1007/BF03060351

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